To reply to a wedding enquiry in a way that gets the booking, respond quickly, make it personal, confirm availability, give a clear starting point on investment and end with one simple next step, usually a short call. The aim of the first email isn't to close the sale. It's to earn the conversation.
I've been on both sides of this: answering thousands of enquiries as a planner, and enquiring with suppliers on behalf of couples. The difference between the replies that made me want to book and the ones I closed straight away was rarely price. It was how the email made me feel.
Why the first reply matters so much
Couples rarely enquire with just one supplier. They send the same message to several, often on the same evening, then compare the replies. The first reply that feels warm, clear and easy to say yes to has a real advantage.
If enquiries keep going quiet after your reply, I've written about the bigger picture in why wedding enquiries aren't booking. This post is about the email itself.
How to reply to a wedding enquiry: the five-part structure
1. A personal opening
Use their names. Mention one detail from their message: the venue, the date, the vibe, the dog who's going to be ring bearer. This proves a human read their enquiry.
2. Availability, clearly
Say whether you're available, in the first few lines. If you're not, say so kindly and offer an alternative (a colleague, a different date, a different service).
3. A line or two about how you work
Not your life story. One or two sentences on what working with you feels like. "I write every ceremony from scratch after we've had a proper chat about your story." "Couples plan with me in a shared online planning space, so nothing gets lost in email."
4. A starting point on investment
Hiding price completely often backfires. Couples assume you're out of reach, or feel you're being cagey. A "most couples invest from..." line or a link to your pricing guide filters out poor fits and builds trust. If you're not sure how to structure packages first, start with wedding packages that sell.
5. One clear next step
Give them one thing to do: book a 20-minute call using your scheduling link. Not "let me know if you have any questions". That puts the work back on them.
A wedding enquiry reply template you can adapt
Here's a template to make your own. Rewrite it in your voice, because a template that sounds like a template defeats the purpose.
Hi Sam and Alex, thank you so much for getting in touch, and congratulations. A garden ceremony at your family's property sounds just gorgeous. Good news: I'm available on your date. The way I work is very hands-on: we'll get to know each other properly before anything is designed, so your day feels like you. Most couples invest from [your starting point], and my full guide is here: [link]. The best next step is a relaxed 20-minute video call so I can hear more about your plans. You can grab a time that suits here: [link]. Speak soon, Jac
Notice what's not in there: a wall of inclusions, a PDF of every package and three paragraphs about awards. Keep it short enough to read on a phone.
How fast should you reply?
As fast as you reasonably can while still being personal. Same day is a strong standard. Within an hour, if you can manage it, is better. If you can't, an automated acknowledgement that sets an honest expectation ("I'll reply personally by tomorrow afternoon") is far better than silence. I talk about where automation helps and where it hurts in what to automate first.
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Mistakes that kill wedding enquiries
- Answering only the question asked. "Yes, $X" with nothing else is a commodity reply.
- Sending a giant brochure first. Couples skim it, see a number, and leave.
- No next step. If they have to work out how to proceed, many won't.
- Writing about yourself more than them. Count the "I"s versus the "you"s.
- Waiting days to reply. By then they've booked a call with someone else.
- Not following up. Silence often just means busy. A friendly nudge after a few days is service, not pestering.
The follow-up sequence
If they don't reply, don't assume the answer is no.
- Day 3: a light check-in. "Just making sure this didn't land in spam."
- Day 7: share something useful, such as a real wedding similar to theirs or a planning tip.
- Day 14: a gracious close. "I'll assume you've found the right fit, and I wish you the most beautiful day. If anything changes, I'm here."
That last email gets surprising replies. People respond to being let go kindly.
Turning the reply into a booking
The reply wins the call. The call wins the booking. Once you've got them on the phone, the structure of that conversation matters just as much, which is why I wrote how to run a wedding sales consultation that converts.
The sales chapter in The Wedding Business & Marketing Handbook Volume One covers enquiry handling, consultations and client experience in more depth, with worksheets so you can build your own scripts. Planners will find consultation and proposal templates in The Wedding Planner's Handbook. All ten titles are on the books page.
If you'd like me to look at your actual enquiry replies and rework them with you, that's a perfect use of a single coaching session. Enquiry conversion is one of the most common topics clients bring to coaching.
Adapting your reply for different enquiry types
Not every enquiry is the same, and your reply shouldn't be either. A few common types and how I'd handle them:
- The one-line "how much?": answer warmly, give your starting point, and invite them to a call to find out what they need.
- The detailed essay: reflect back two or three specifics so they know you read every word.
- The directory or form enquiry: keep it extra short, as they've probably sent ten at once.
- The referral from a venue or planner: mention the referrer by name and thank them later.
- The parent enquiring for the couple: be gracious, then gently suggest including the couple in the call.
Keep a small bank of opening lines and closing lines for each type. That way you can reply fast without ever sounding copied and pasted.
Every first-reply template, opening line and follow-up I use is in The Wedding Sales Handbook, with word-for-word scripts for email, DMs, WhatsApp and video, plus 80 fillable workbook pages.
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FAQs
Should I include prices when replying to a wedding enquiry?
I recommend including a starting point or linking to a pricing guide. It builds trust, filters out couples who aren't a fit and saves everyone time. You don't need to list every package in the first email.
How quickly should wedding suppliers respond to enquiries?
Ideally the same day, and faster if you can. If you can't reply personally quickly, send an honest automated acknowledgement saying when you will.
What should I write if I'm not available on their date?
Say so kindly in the first lines, then offer an alternative: a trusted colleague, another date or a different service. Couples remember suppliers who helped even when they couldn't book them.
How many times should I follow up a wedding enquiry?
Two or three times over about two weeks works well: a check-in, a helpful follow-up and a gracious close.
Should I use an enquiry reply template?
Yes, as a starting structure, but always personalise the opening and details. A reply that obviously came from a template feels like a form letter.
